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Henna the mom-to-be's belly at an upcoming baby shower or blessingway.

2010 guide to planning a baby shower or blessingway

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Booze at the baby bash?

Perhaps the best part of throwing a shower for an adoptive mom is that she can drink! Showers for pregnant moms sometimes include lightly spiked punches or mimosas for the guests, but again, it's up to the mom. If you know the sex of the baby, consider getting creative with your libations, such as pink squirrels or Blue Curacao concoctions. Or, consider an alcohol-free champagne toast.

Edible edibles?

Full-on meals, appetizers or potlucks are all excellent options for the food aspect of baby showers. Make sure you find out if mom or her close family or friends are allergic to anything, and if you are having the shower at a business, be sure to check into the ramifications of bringing food before you start going wild in the kitchen. Consider a "kid food" buffet with mac 'n cheese, "knox blox" Jell-O snacks, PB&J with the crusts cut off and juice boxes. Other ideas include appetizers that begin with the same letter as the baby's first name (unless it's Xavier or Quinn) or food reflecting the family's ethnicity.

Pamper party!

Including chair massage, pedicures or henna adornment will really bring your shower or blessingway to the next level and offer activity that's not game-related. Mom might even want her belly henna-ed.

Is she more of a "blessingway" type gal?

Having a blessingway, instead of a shower, is a popular choice. The blessingway usually doesn't include traditional games or decorations, and has more of a spiritual -- rather than material -- flavor. Blessingways are often appreciated by moms having their second or third child, because they really do not need any baby items, but still appreciate the camaraderie.

Often, blessingway guests bring a poem as their "gift." The hostess provides a blank book, compiles the poems into the book during the blessingway and gives it to the mother at the end as a gift.

Sometimes, guests are asked to bring a bead that someone represents the mother. The, at the blessingway, the beads are strung onto a cord and given to the mom to wear during labor.

Other popular blessingway activities include: belly casting / painting / henna-ing, washing the mother's feet and / or brushing her hair or having each guest light a candle while saying something supportive to the mother-to-be.

And they all lived happily ever after: Final words on planning a baby shower / blessingway.

The most important thing to remember is the shower or blessingway should be centered on the mom-to-be first and the baby second. For months and years to come, life is going to be all about the kid and, in some ways, this is mom's (and dad's) last hurrah. That said, personalize the shower as much as you can, whether that means playing Mom's favorite CDs at the event, or including pictures of her as a baby or tying in family heritage in some way. Anyone can throw a generic baby shower or blessingway, but the truly memorable and most fun showers are the ones with unique choices and a whole lotta panache.


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241 N. Broadway, (414) 289-0844

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(414) 263-4557

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